What is real is "what." Whatever can be inquired of potentially or actually is real on some level, whether potential, or actual. But here we're going to take a more particular approach. Not untrue, just particular.

What is real is what’s apparent and what’s the most apparent thing for many people is that there’s one thing they would stop doing everything they’re doing to tend to if it would be apparent, meaning right in front of them, and that’s a person who is in an apparent state of suffering.

When an apparent suffering person is in front of us, for most of us every single thing shifts to this one person. We would attend to this one person over all else. What’s even more astonishing is that even if it were an animal in an apparent state of suffering most of us would drop everything for this one animal. So, when the lack of exposure to this person or this animal is broken, is it not that all our definitions of responsibility and success are broken as well?

If lack of exposure is the real or apparent problem then the real or apparent solution is to eliminate this lack of exposure in our minds, our awareness, and let it seep into our values and our definitions of responsibility and success.

It seems that we only know what matters most when it's right in front of us.